Make Misteaks

Posted on January 13th, by mb in blissed living. 33 comments


What would you tell your twenty-year-old self?

To eat more kale? To never ever skip Pilates? To make sure “thank you” cards go out exactly on time?
Highly unlikely, unless you are a young Martha Stewart or some sort of alien.

When I was twenty-two I took a job that I knew I’d be miserable in. But it was at a “prestigious” magazine and according to the talking heads of the world I really needed a 401K and health insurance. About a month into the job I started a two year countdown in my notebook and I quit right around the day. When I told people I was quitting my job to be a yoga teacher and a freelance writer I got a lot of bewildered looks and a whole lot of “But are you sure?”

Well, not feeling too sure when you are looking at me like I told you I wanted be a Unicorn.

And I made a lot of mistakes in the seven years since – like getting into to debt then getting out then getting back in again, sleeping through a couple of 7 am classes I was supposed to teach, telling my students to pull their shoulder blades in toward their farts (yes, seriously) – but man, I am inspired by what I do. Like every damn day. What a gift. Now when I make a mistake or do something seriously strange (I opened my mouth to exhale while teaching 50 students and a strange Teradactyl-sounding noise came out of my mouth) I just laugh. Like truly, truly laugh until my belly hurts and theirs do too.

As I reflected on the past year there were so many things to celebrate – leaps in my career and personal growth, getting married to a very rad man, traveling all over the world – and those things didn’t happen because of a diligently planned schedule. And all of those things weren’t easy either. Matt and I’ve had some epic blow outs. I’ve had moments when I felt like an imposter while teaching or coaching. And I was slightly hungover the morning of my wedding. And I wouldn’t change a damn thing.

Matt and I fight because we’re still learning how to create a partnership and a home. I was nervous while teaching and coaching because I wanted to deliver something perfect, and that’s a joke. And I was hungover because I had 175 of my favorite people ever in the same room and we were serving the best wine ever. Obviously.

My twenty-year old self would likely high-five my thirty-year-old self. Because I’m comfortable in my own skin, doing what I love and still a whole lotta fucking fun.

No need for the word “mistake.” How about experience? Learning? Moment in time? A truly funny sounding noise?

I want to move forward with grace, playfulness and a great sense of humor.
I want to laugh til I cry when I do something weird. Which is likely to be often.
And when I make mistakes, I want to bear hug anyone I’ve hurt, and if it’s just me, I’m gonna wrap my arms tight right around myself.

Looking cool is boring.
Go out and make some mistakes.
Then own them.
And grow.
And above all, be sure to laugh (a whole lot).

33 Responses to “Make Misteaks”

  1. Leah says:

    Love, love, love this!!!

  2. Catherine says:

    “those things didn’t happen because of a diligently planned schedule”

    I love that and will carry that with me throughout the year.


  3. danielle says:

    cheers to making misteaks!

  4. Kate says:

    I was slightly hungover on my wedding day too…it happens:) xo

  5. Lincoln says:

    I think you’re pretty rad. Great stuff, Happy New Year my friend!

  6. Michelle says:

    My 20 year old self wouldn’t even recognize my 49 year old self. Thank God ;-) great article!

  7. Robin says:

    Love this! As a (recovering) perfectionist, it’s so refreshing to be reminded that mistakes are the necessary ingredients to a life lived.

  8. gwenn says:

    So happy I stumbled across your blog. Your post was exactly what I needed today. Thank you so much. Much love and light! xo

  9. heidi says:

    You’ve inspired this 21 year old

  10. Maria says:

    I am a 24 years old yoga teacher and this is so inspiring for me right now. Thank you for sharing this.

  11. Sima says:

    Love this! You are a unicorn to so many:)

  12. melinda says:

    Your candor is contagious xo

  13. Nicola says:

    I think this is probably one of the most inspiring blog posts I’ve ever read.

    High five!!

  14. lily says:

    Haha, I sooo agree with you!
    I finished my yoga teacher training last year and never started teaching. I guess I felt a wee bit incompetent to teach seeing that I was just a new graduate with little (ahem… read NO) teaching experience. I want(ed) to be a perfect teacher, knowing this isn’t possible, I just ended up not teaching at all. Sucks hey! But hey, lightbulb moment, I realised only through the mistakes you learn and become better. You’re gonna make mistakes, fact of life. Rise up from them and grow. Next week I have my appointment with local studio to start teaching there. Great post, thank you!

  15. Karen says:

    This totally resonates for me! I too think 25-year-old Karen would high-five 35-year-old Karen. Then we’d do a shot together.

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  17. Anjelica says:

    I couldn’t have stumbled upon this at a better time. I’ve been going back and forth with starting teacher training….it starts next week might I add and this embraced my hesitant self and confirmed what my gut has been saying. I think it’s finally time to take the leap! Thank you for being an inspiration!

  18. Julie says:

    Just found your blog and have been inhaling posts, feeling completely inspired by you. You’re one cool lady.

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